According to Recent Research:

The following signs are proven symptoms of relationship deterioration that are associated with a greatly increased probability of breakup or divorce:

• Feeling Distant
• Increase in Arguing or Negativity
• Lack of Affection
• Increase in Anger, Hostility or  Sarcasm
• Avoidance of Each Other; Stonewalling

If You’re Having One or More of the Signs Listed Above, Take Some Action Soon to Improve Your Situation.

The main problem for most couples is a lack one or more of these skills: often in the areas of communication, anger management, commitment, conflict resolution, or intimacy.
You may not know how to successfully resolve ongoing hurts/resentments; betrayal of trust; affairs; cheating or other infidelity-related issues; verbal abuse; anger; and/or lack of closeness in your relationship.

There is good news! These skills can be taught to motivated couples.

In our 7+ years of experience, the actions, which result in, the most effective and longest-lasting results, are a combination of: couples therapy and focused attention to the relationship by each partner.

Since 2001, we have helped over a hundred couples – dating, engaged, or married – solve their relationship problems and create healthy, fulfilling, loving relationships.

Frequently Asked Questions About Couples’ Therapy:

How Long is Couples Therapy? At Conscious Choices, specific goals are set at the beginning of therapy, and couples are expected to do homework to establish healthy relationship patterns and practices in their daily lives. Because of this, therapy or counseling is usually time-limited and ends when your relationship goals have been met.

Of course there are some more complex situations, which require a series of goals, and resolutions that take place sequentially over time. All of this can be discussed and clarified during the initial evaluation session with the therapist. Because we specialize in relationships for over seven years, we have almost certainly dealt with any relationship or couples’ issues you may have.

How Do We Choose a Couples’ Therapist? The unfortunate fact is that many counselors and psychotherapists perform Couples’ and Marriage Therapy who have not been trained to do so. We have found through experience and research that the most effective couples’ therapy combines skill building with feedback and insight on communication patterns and processes, along with regular homework assignments.  Couples’ sessions where the therapists merely referee arguments tends to not produce any long-lasting changes in relationship patterns.

So when you’re choosing a couples’ therapist, be sure to ask them how active and directive they are in their sessions. You should also ask your therapist how many couples’ or marriage counseling sessions they do every week. If it’s less than 5-10, they are doing couples’ therapy as a minor sidelight, not as a main thrust of their practice and they may not be as experienced in working with this modality.

Finally, find out how much training they have had in systems theory and if they are members of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. (AAMFT) We are both members of the AAMFT. Each of us has gone through graduate programs that required 78 credit hours of school focused on working with Family Systems and Couples to graduate. That’s 3,510 hours of time spent in the classroom learning about family systems and what affects them.

Does Insurance Cover Couple’s Therapy? Insurance is a two-edged sword. In order to get coverage we must give you a mental health diagnosis. This diagnosis will be recorded in the Medical Information Bureau computer systems that can be accessed by many people. The diagnosis will follow you for the rest of your life.It could impact your ability to get life, health, long-term care, and other types of insurance. On top of that, most plans don’t cover helping you with your relationship or marriage.Therefore we are not on any insurance panels.

However, If you are interested we will help you find out what your insurance will cover if we give you a mental health diagnosis. Please do not email or ask “What insurance do you take?” – it’s MUCH more efficient if you can bring in your insurance card to the first appointment, we will copy it and call the company for you to find out what they cover. Once we understand what your coverage is, we will tell you how to file for it. Thank you.

Since 2001, We Have Helped over a Hundred Couples Solve Their Problems and Create Healthy, Fulfilling, Loving Relationships.

We provide marriage counseling, relationship therapy, couples counseling, premarital counseling, singles and couples workshops, help with divorce, relationship advice, as well as help with dating, love and communication.